Tuesday, January 26

100 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife "HER" Way

I received the origninal piece in an email [Author Unknown], and it so aptly captures many salient things our men need to know.
I put my twist on the original piecce by adding, deleting and rephrasing some of the statements below.

Wives please forward this list to your husbands and lets hope it will jolt them into reality.
This would go a long way in educating them in the art of "Love, Romance and Appreciation"
Feel free to re-arrange or re-write the list to suit your own personal needs or beliefs. 
  1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.
  2. Pray for her when you are apart and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.
  3. Communicate with her instead of "barking at" her or "shutting her" out emotionally.
  4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.
  5. Compliment her uniqueness and qualities; big and small [Be specific]
  6. Show interest in her friends and family and give her time to be with them.
  7. Do something active together to lift her spirits -even taking a walk hand-in-hand.
  8. Show and tell her that you need and value her.
  9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she's excited about-let your actions show it.
  10. Arrange activities or events that would make you laugh together.
  11. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.
  12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.
  13. Do not take important decisions with out consulting her first.
  14. Show interest in that which she values as important in her life.
  15. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.
  16. When you feel you must correct her, be gentle -speaking the truth in LOVE.
  17. Doesn’t sweat the small stuff -We all have peculiar habits and preferences?
  18. Show her that she matters more to you than any activity you could do, or any one you could be with, that somehow threatens her sense of security in your marriage.
  19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.
  20. Plan regular get a ways, where the two of you can spend quality time alone together.
  21. Go shopping with her and be patient as she trod to and fro through all the shops haggling with joy.
  22. Take her out to breakfast or bring her breakfast in bed.
  23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.
  24. Be graceful and forgiving when she has wronged you.
  25. Find ways to let her know you are her partner in all areas life.
  26. Be polite, courteous, and well mannered in your deals with her - do not take her for granted.
  27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She'll appreciate that!
  28. Defend her to others-especially to your family.
  29. Don't underestimate her intelligence or belittle her contributions or efforts.
  30. Massage her or just cuddle with her to help her relax.
  31. Get up in the middle of the night (letting her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child.
  32. Be caring and protective when she is not feeling well.
  33. Answer her in details when she asks a question not in Monosyllables.
  34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.
  35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss current and future expenditure.
  36. Don't embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.
  37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.
  38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.
  39. Show her that you enjoy her company-give her attention when you are with her.
  40. Openly communicate with her about your work or an outing when apart.
  41. Stay away from web sites, chat rooms, preying females or anything that gives you sexual gratification from anyone other than your wife.
  42. Be helpful and cooperative when you have guests coming to visit. If you are clueless take a lead from her.
  43. Brag about her to others; In front of her and when she is not with you.
  44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.
  45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
  46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.
  47. Guard your tongue from saying "unwholesome words" or down-grading her.
  48. Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.
  49. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
  50. Be an involved partner and parent by helping her raise your children.
  51. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.
  52. Be supportive; Push her to achieve educationally and otherwise.
  53. View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, "Make me feel special."
  54. Run errands without complaining.
  55. Be thoughtful kind and considerate to her family members.
  56. Don't compare her family with yours.
  57. Sit close to her - even when you are just watching television.
  58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
  59. Make plans together duly acknowledging that she is an equal partner.
  60. Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
  61. Do not betray her trust; be careful in your dealings
  62. Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
  63. Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
  64. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).
  65. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
  66. Keep yourself in as good of shape as is reasonable so she's proud to be with you.
  67. Make it a point to write a mission statement together for your marriage and family.
  68. Take the time to touch every day-even if it's only for a minute or two.
  69. Be kind to her; Men are often kinder to strangers than they are to their spouses.
  70. Be sensitive enough not to hurt her during sex; put her needs first before yours [Hard but doable].
  71. Go out of your way to make her feel valued.
  72. Grant her equal right to your finances; especially if she is a SAHM.
  73. Continue to court her. You dated her before you married which helped you to fall in love, now date her to STAY in love.
  74. Choose your words carefully when you are angry; Hurtful or hateful words often cut deep and the wounds don't heal easily.
  75. Show affection for her in front of friends.
  76. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her with respect.
  77. Make it a point of duty to remember; your anniversary, her birthday, and other special occasions.
  78. Provide for her financially [If she is a SAHM] and support her [Even if she has a job]
  79. Hold her close and vocally express your love and care for her when she is hurt, discouraged, or burdened.
  80. Trust in her abilities.
  81. Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).
  82. Don't tease her about "sore" things or shortcomings.
  83. Be patient with her at all times.
  84. Don't forget to hold her hand in public like you used to do when you were dating.
  85. Criticize her gently and with an intention to teach; not to condemn
  86. Don't focus on the physical features of another woman (because, whether you understand her reasoning or not, this can make your wife jealous and insecure]
  87. Be sensitive to her needs- and do not wait for her to ask for help.
  88. Endeavour to spend time with her and the children; family bonding experiences.
  89. Be romantic ask her out to dinner and treat her like a date.
  90. Be sympathetic when she is in pain or sorrowing
  91. Take over the mothering once in a while and let her have a much needed rest.
  92. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
  93. Don't ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.
  94. Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she's wanted done.
  95. Tell her (and show her) you love her often.
  96. Call, email or text her during the day when you are apart from each other so she knows you are thinking of her.
  97. Surprise her by suggesting you go to a marriage seminar or weekend retreat together to draw even closer in your marital relationship.
  98. Drop little love notes around the house for her to find.
  99. Show her affection without sexual intentions.
  100. Love her in sickness and in health, in good times and bad times.

 Good Luck in Love!



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